Note: My opinion on a piece I saw over at BuzzFeed this morning.
So Idaho Gov. Butch Otter says that marriage equality could cause significant harms, “especially [to] the children of heterosexuals” and has asked the Court of Appeals to reconsider the position that the Idaho ban on same sex ban is unconstitutional.
Lawyers for Gov. Otter wrote, “This issue is also exceptional because, as a practical matter, redefining marriage by judicial fiat will undermine these social norms and likely lead to significant long-term harms to Idaho and its citizens, especially the children of heterosexuals… —including serious risks of increased fatherlessness, reduced parental financial and emotional support, increased crime, and greater psychological problems…”
On social norms, I’ll quote user TheLittleRedHeadThatCould because I couldn’t say it better:
“It used to be a “social norm” to cut sick people, you know, to let them “bleed it out”.
It used to be a “social norm” to force black people to use different bathrooms.
It used to be a “social norm” to marry girls off at 16 with a dowry.
Thankfully, “social norms” change.” QFT.
To address each of the lawyers’ statements:
1. “Increased fatherlessness…”
Really? We already have tons of kids out there that are growing up in single parent homes. Wouldn’t it be better to have two people that love each other raise a kid, instead of one? (Not diminishing the power of the single parent; their sacrifice and dedication is amazing)
2. “Reduced parental financial and emotional supports.”
Once again, two heads of house hold, two incomes. Two loving people = better emotional support.
3. “Increased crime and psychological problems.”
Seriously? That’s simply conjecture. I haven’t seen any scientific proof indicating that.
Listen, I get that the majority of people who are anti-gay are fundamentalist Christians. But yet it seems really easy for us to pick and choose what parts of the Bible we will advocate for and others that we won’t. Ex. In Deuteronomy 22:20-21, it talks about how if a woman is not found to be a virgin when she is married, she is to be stoned to death. And yet we ignore that.
Christians, I don’t get you sometimes and sometimes I wonder how I affiliate myself with you. Yes, I’m still a Christian, but 1. It’s not our place to judge, as it’s God’s and 2. Jesus preached love and compassion. Jesus hung out with whores and tax collectors and lairs and cheaters and blue collar workers. Where in the Bible does it say that we must go out of our way to harass and harangue our fellow human beings? You may think you are trying to save their souls, but news flash, it’s not working and it won’t work.
One of my favorite comics puts it best:
A little silly, but it makes it a good point.
Christians, it’s a lot easier to love. So much time and effort is being put forth into fighting homosexual marriage but why? This isn’t rhetorical, I want to know why people are pouring so much effort into this.
Couple of things I want to get out of the way:
1. America is not a Christian only country. Stop acting like it is as every position stating such can be easily refuted. Even the “Under God” part of the Pledge of Allegiance.
2. It’s their personal choice. No, I’m not debating sexual preference being a choice or biologically directed. I’m saying that what people do with their own lives in this regards does not affect us in the least bit. So why should we get in the way?
3. “But what about the children,” you say. Listen, if you are concerned about your kids being negatively influenced by gay people, my biggest question to you is, “Why are you worried? What negative aspect of being homosexual are you afraid of? Or really are you just uncomfortable with the concept of homosexuality? Also, I’ll infer that you say that, you’re worried you can’t control your children. Right?” Which leads to:
Condescending, yeah, but the fear that your child will be “converted” to being gay is unfounded.
4. Gays can have kids too. Sure, they may not have the biological parts for traditional child making, but surprise! There are places in the world called sperm banks. And egg banks. And orphanages. What orphan wouldn’t want a loving home? I doubt that the kid would care about mommy/mommy or daddy/daddy or mommy/daddy dynamics.
In summary, or the TL;DR version: anti-gay marriage just seems to be fronted by uncomfortable Christians, trying to justify how other people should live by forcibly framing their self-interpreted, Biblically driven ideal of happiness on people who live differently from them.
I’m curious to see how many non-Christians are anti-gay marriage for reasons other than, “They make me feel uncomfortable,” because I don’t think there are very many and I would like to hear their argument.